AuDHD · Perimenopause · Coaching

For AuDHD women in perimenopause whose usual strategies have stopped working.

You used to be able to do this. That’s the part that doesn’t make sense.

Hormones, burnout, health conditions and the things that have always been there. I look at the whole picture, because everything interacts.

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Everything that used to work has stopped.

You can’t tell what’s hormones, what’s burnout, and what’s always been there.

You’re functioning. But it’s costing you more than anyone around you knows.

Some days you miss the version of you who could keep all of this going.

You’ve spent a long time trying to fix what’s happening without a framework for what’s driving it.

You’ve worked on the burnout without knowing about the neurodivergence underneath it.

You’ve had the hormones investigated without accounting for the masking that’s been running for decades.

Without a picture of how perimenopause and AuDHD interact, it’s hard to know which problem you’re working on.

What makes this different

I trained as a menopause coach and then as an ADHD coach. I had the qualifications before perimenopause changed everything for me personally. When it did, I understood it from both directions.

I’m AuDHD, diagnosed at 45, after around 30 years of misdiagnosis. I left a 20-year career in corporate IT in 2025 when perimenopause stripped away every coping strategy I’d spent decades building. I built this practice because the support I needed didn’t exist.

The coaching I do starts at the intersection of both experiences. It’s built around what perimenopause and neurodivergence look like together, in a life where the usual strategies have already stopped working.

How it works

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Book a free discovery call.

30 minutes, online, no commitment. We talk through what’s actually going on for you and whether coaching is the right next step.

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Map where you are.

The first session is a 90-minute mapping session. We look at four areas: your lifestyle and capacity, how your neurodivergence is showing up right now, what perimenopause is specifically doing for you, and your relationship with yourself at this point. That map shapes everything that comes next.

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Build what works for you.

Six fortnightly coaching sessions, built around what’s actually happening. Not a fixed programme you move through. Work that fits your brain, your capacity, and where you actually are.

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What this tends to lead to

Most women I work with arrive hoping for a fix and leave with something more useful: an accurate picture of what’s going on, and why. You stop treating every symptom in isolation. You stop measuring yourself against a version of yourself that doesn’t exist anymore.

Getting to the end of the week with something left.

You still have AuDHD. You’re still in perimenopause. But there’s something left for your own life.

“I don’t know how much longer I can keep this up.”

If you’re a neurodivergent woman in perimenopause, exhausted, questioning everything, quietly running out of the strategies that used to get you through, you’re in the right place. Formal diagnosis or not.

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Jess Lindo

About Jess

Jess Lindo

MN.Nutr

Certified Menopause Coach

ADHD Coach

AuDHD, diagnosed at 45

I’m Jess Lindo, a certified menopause coach and ADHD coach with specialist training in AuDHD in women. I’m AuDHD myself, diagnosed at 45. I spent over 20 years in corporate IT before perimenopause made that impossible to continue. I built this because I needed it and couldn’t find it.

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What women say

I kept gaslighting myself into thinking it wasn’t as bad as I thought. Jess has helped me feel less alone, and talking things through regularly has made me feel much more regulated. I’ve made huge progress in just a few months.

Lorraine
AuDHD + Perimenopause

AuDHD + Perimenopause

A workbook for when coping strategies stop working

If you’re starting to suspect that what you’re experiencing might be connected to AuDHD and perimenopause, but you’re not ready to book a call yet, this is where to start.

The workbook covers why perimenopause hits AuDHD women the way it does, gives you language for what you’re experiencing, and includes two reflection exercises to help you map what’s changed for you and what it’s actually costing you to keep going.

It’s free. No obligation. Just a starting point.

Coming January 2027

The AuDHD Emergence Programme

A nine-week group programme for late-discovered AuDHD women in perimenopause. The first small pilot cohort starts mid-January, and doors open at the end of November.

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Questions

AuDHD perimenopause coaching is for women who are autistic and ADHD (AuDHD) and in perimenopause at the same time. Estrogen helps regulate dopamine and serotonin. As it falls and fluctuates through perimenopause, many women find their ADHD traits get harder to manage and their sensory sensitivities intensify. Coaching focuses on understanding what’s actually driving the harder days, and building approaches that work with your brain rather than against it.

No. Many of the women I work with are self-identifying or in the process of being assessed. You don’t need a diagnosis to recognise yourself in the experience. What matters is that the description of what’s happening makes sense to you.

General menopause coaching is built for a neurotypical experience of perimenopause. It doesn’t account for how ADHD regulation shifts with estrogen, how autistic masking becomes harder to sustain, or how the burnout that results looks different from standard perimenopause fatigue. This coaching is built specifically for that intersection.

That’s a common starting point. Perimenopause often brings it into focus. It strips away the coping strategies that made it possible to keep functioning without anyone noticing, including yourself. If you’re not sure, that’s fine. We work with where you are.

No. I’m a coach, not a therapist or clinician. Coaching focuses on understanding your current experience, identifying what’s driving it, and building practical approaches that fit your brain and your life. If you need therapeutic support, I’ll tell you honestly.

I work with women who are autistic, ADHD, or AuDHD. My own experience is AuDHD, so that’s where my understanding is deepest, and most of what I write is aimed at that intersection.

If you’re at the point where everything that used to work has stopped, you’re probably ready. You don’t need to have it figured out first. That’s what the work is for.